Serious Rant

[UK Motorcycle Forum Member]

I'm too angry to even type my Rant and the only thing that can ever wind me up thus much is a flaming man.
My husband is a selfish mean jealous miserable excuse of a man.
I've had a guts full if his bloody childish strops. I've given the last 6 years of my life selflessly to him and my kids and been a dutiful wife and mother, cooked cleaned cared for and provided for everyones needs above my own but now I've taken some time back for myself. I've spent 6 hours a week on a motorbike, joined a forum and now I'm the worst person in the world for neglecting my family. I'm told to give it up or bear the consequences. Told my kids will no longer love me!!!!
I've been Told a married woman should not be meeting strangers off the Internet and riding round the country with bikers esp male ones. When I asked if he was jealous I was told 'dont flatter yourself love'!! How spiteful!

So I apologise say I'll stop going out on long rides, I'll only go out once a month and I'll leave my laptop switched off in the evenings so I can give him more of my time and what does he do tonight ?  Plays on the fucking xbox whilst I'm just sat there like a lemon.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

Rant over

[UK Motorcycle Forum Member]

Hmmmmm, rant away hun, sure there are many on here who agree with you, luckily my other half is into bikes and doesn't mind blokes posting on here and facebook, to be honest even if he did I'd carry on!

Big hugs hun xx
 

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Bomb him!!! Simple!! 

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ohhhhhh bob get a little grrrrrr if i stay on here to long but as for out riding the bike with others im ok with that one
and you do go out with us girls to
dont let it get to it he just felling left out

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Good on you Sam 

[UK Motorcycle Forum Member]

I'm too angry to even type my Rant and the only thing that can ever wind me up thus much is a flaming man.
My husband is a selfish mean jealous miserable excuse of a man.
I've had a guts full if his bloody childish strops. I've given the last 6 years of my life selflessly to him and my kids and been a dutiful wife and mother, cooked cleaned cared for and provided for everyones needs above my own but now I've taken some time back for myself. I've spent 6 hours a week on a motorbike, joined a forum and now I'm the worst person in the world for neglecting my family. I'm told to give it up or bear the consequences. Told my kids will no longer love me!!!!
I've been Told a married woman should not be meeting strangers off the Internet and riding round the country with bikers esp male ones. When I asked if he was jealous I was told 'dont flatter yourself love'!! How spiteful!

So I apologise say I'll stop going out on long rides, I'll only go out once a month and I'll leave my laptop switched off in the evenings so I can give him more of my time and what does he do tonight ?  Plays on the fucking xbox whilst I'm just sat there like a lemon.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

Rant over

I have this too..... must be a bloke thing.......... they cant help it its genetic...................
Almost word for word is what i have had off my other half... we've been married for ...22 yrs and have ...5 children... yes i know.. we got a telly...
Its just alittle bit of ME time and he doesn't understand, green eyed monster me thinks... my hubby does his own thing... so now IT'S MY TURN !!!
but he' s getting used to it... but tis taking time....
Keep up the biking and sod them lol  xx   

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And why is he jealous   

[UK Motorcycle Forum Member]

  Sorry to hear that. You are not doing anything wrong and seems to me from your other posts that you are up front and honest about what you do, where you go and who you go out with so he just has to accept that. I personally don't have that problem but in the past was with someone who was always trying to change me but didn't work and by the time he realised I wouldn't went right off him and couldn't get me back.  The thing is resentment can build up so maybe you should ask your kids whilst he's there ( if they're old enough to understand )what they think about mummy having a life and friends of her own and go from there-I bet they think they have a supermum who can juggle taking care of everyone plus having an exciting pastime. 

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Hi Sam, I can empathise with him a little but he has to get a grip of himself!! When I got into biking I hoped Lisa would go pillion and we'd get out and about, I didn't expect her to go and do her CBT and buy her own bike! Her chatting to other (male and female) bikers took some getting used to but it's all good. We don't get to go out together often as we have a child that needs looking after too but it's time he put his hand in his pocket and got himself a cheap 125 so the two of you can go for a spin when you can find a sitter.

You need to remember he's a bloke and therefore insecure and jealous of anything new   

Hope you get it sorted, it needs talking about.

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Is he on to us? 

Will we have to stop meeting for sex ? 

[UK Motorcycle Forum Member]

Oh dear

you have to look at his point of view to try and understand where he is coming from and then put your thoughts across

he may be feeling left out that you are expanding your horizons by finding new interests / hobbies and he might not be as keen a biker as you.

you are talking to other blokes on this forum and meeting up with some of them on rides - and as we all know this forum is full of hunky bikers  oops sorry thats another forum  its not the same as taking up flower arranging, when its a girly group, he will feel threatened......

but there are also plenty of girls in this community. if he was of a different mind he would be happy that when you go out for a ride the boys will look after you and make sure you get home in one piece. and thats not always about the blokes coming on to you, its a male protective thing.

you need to be able to do this interest together, or if not you have to decide between you how much time you both have for seperate interests. encourage him to meet up the boys on here at social stuff, like the weekly meets, he will then with a bit of luck understand they are no threat.

stick to your guns, you are enjoying your biking but compromise to keep the peace and your relationship, your not alone in this situation - look at how many of the boys on here can't have the bike they want or go out when they want because the wife puts her foot down 

chin up babe xx

[UK Motorcycle Forum Member]

I'm too angry to even type my Rant and the only thing that can ever wind me up thus much is a flaming man.
My husband is a selfish mean jealous miserable excuse of a man.
I've had a guts full if his bloody childish strops. I've given the last 6 years of my life selflessly to him and my kids and been a dutiful wife and mother, cooked cleaned cared for and provided for everyones needs above my own but now I've taken some time back for myself. I've spent 6 hours a week on a motorbike, joined a forum and now I'm the worst person in the world for neglecting my family. I'm told to give it up or bear the consequences. Told my kids will no longer love me!!!!
I've been Told a married woman should not be meeting strangers off the Internet and riding round the country with bikers esp male ones. When I asked if he was jealous I was told 'dont flatter yourself love'!! How spiteful!

So I apologise say I'll stop going out on long rides, I'll only go out once a month and I'll leave my laptop switched off in the evenings so I can give him more of my time and what does he do tonight ?  Plays on the fucking xbox whilst I'm just sat there like a lemon.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

Rant over

I have this too..... must be a bloke thing.......... they cant help it its genetic...................
Almost word for word is what i have had off my other half... we've been married for ...22 yrs and have ...5 children... yes i know.. we got a telly...
Its just alittle bit of ME time and he doesn't understand, green eyed monster me thinks... my hubby does his own thing... so now IT'S MY TURN !!!
but he' s getting used to it... but tis taking time....
Keep up the biking and sod them lol  xx   

Its not just a Bloke thing Trust me!!

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i agree with you rumble lol, just be upfront n honest, personally i'd rather be out riding than playing on an xbox anyday.



oh and btw he is jealous with a reply like that lol

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Just relationship stuff but no fun at all. I hope you both sort it out amicably.

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Thanks everyone for your replies. I felt better just for ranting.

I know it must be tough for him seeing me change from wife and mother to daring biker but I view the changes in me as a good thing. And that's why we are butting heads as there us absolutely nothing wrong with what I'm doing and his insecurities are his problem not mine. But then that's the selfish attitude I've apparently developed talking

I think I'll make a massive effort to be  supermum/wife all of the time, cut down on my Internet time and make him feel important so I can still have my 6 hours or so a week on the bike. Trouble is I'm too tired to even keeps my eyes open past 9pm as I've a full time job a full load of housework with a 9 month old baby and a 4 year old!!!

Biking means way to much to me to give it up so I'll be propping my eyes open with cocktail sticks every night. And if he's still not happy I'll bomb him as fuzzrr mentioned.

And men moan us women are high maintenance!!!! I'm sick of massaging his ego!

Anyway thanks all for calming me down xx